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Never neg

Should I know what it is? Or just something you think I did it? No, no,
I did it, I did it.
You can’t act like everything’s ganna work out by itself.
Because you can’t sing without making dogs bark.
I know what I want because I’ve had it in my hands right now.
We are not a mistake just because we don’t have any money.
We gonna have it last. You know how I know? Because I still wake up
every morning and the first thing I want to do is seeing your face.
I just want to be there when the morning light explodes. On your face,
it radiates I can’t escape.
I think I repel the woman I want most
I still know you are around. You are still here, aren’t you?
Married people make each other feel like shit on purpose sometimes. It
just feels good.
We have absolutely no idea what we want.
Gerry thought it was the best way to honor the dead, show them how well
we’re doing.
We don’t know what a privilege it is to grow old with someone.
I feel like I’m trying on a new pair of shoes I really wanna buy, but
they just don’t fit.
There’s no man, alive or dead, who’s gonna fault you for living.
Would you mind if we should walk together since we are going in the same
direction. I’ll stay on this side of the road. Don’t even have to talk.
Just quite nice, sometimes walking along with someone without talking
once you get your feet wet.
At first, the no-talking thing didn’t last. Before long, I couldn’t get
you to shut up. But you were so cute, trying to impress me with William
blake and all your grand plans. I had no idea what you were talking
about, but I couldn’t help loving the way you talked.
I loved you right then and there.
A fella has to tell a woman the truth without words. It’s like a signal
you send out. The woman, she just pick it up.
I could turn it on and off when I was younger and I had no principles.
When every girl that I was lucky enough to kiss was the end of life as I
knew it. Now I only send it out when I think she might be the one that
makes it true.
–Do you think we could turn around and face each other without freaking
him out?
–ah…Okay, sure, but let’s move very slowly, okay?
亚洲必赢官网app( ,I’m keeping it unless we meet again, that’s a bet you’re gonna have to
win because if we do meet again then that’ll be the end of it, you
If I happen to walk into the right one in the right town then we’ll know
for sure, won’t we? And if I don’t then that’ll just be the most perfect
kiss ever created by two strangers and we’ll just keep it perfect for
the rest of our lives.
Life had changed as I knew it, and now it changed again.
I really like you, but I can’t be the invisible man. I’m tired of being
the shoulder. I wanna be another body part you need, you know? I wanna
be the bad guy. I wanna a woman to go crazy over me and then I wanna use
her up until she’s ruined for all other men I’d like to be somebody’s
I bet you’ve had a hard time walking into a room full of people on your
own. I know what it is feel like you are in the room until he looks at
you or touches your hand or even makes a joke at your expense, just to
let everyone know you are with him, you are his.
God, that man could make me laugh.
You know the worst thing for a parent, second after losing a child?
Watching your child head for the same life you had and you can’t stop
it. It’s a terrible helpless feeling. Makes you angry all the time and
I’ve been angry a very long time. I’m exhausted.
You make me a man by loving me.
P.S. I love you.

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This art movie is in autobiography way. It adapts the life of British
writer Virginia Woolf, also with her famous work 《Mrs. Dalloway》. In
some introductions, this movie is usually pasted with key words
‘Feminism’ and ‘Lesbianism’ . However, I don’t think great works like
this one can only be defined by one ‘-ism’. It is more like to tell
humanities, to reveal real and common feelings of all creatures.



The film tells three different women’s lives in one single day. As
Virginia said, a woman’s whole life, just in one single day. They have
connections and their experiences can be regarded as comparisons. I want
to explain it through some typical objects or scenes in this film.

Negging – a favourite of pickup artists and other shady characters – is
basically an insult disguised as a compliment.

Our Star is Olivia Plotnick

The first, Flowers. Virginia in 1923 started her novel with the
sentence: Mrs. Dalloway said…she would buy the flowers…herself. Please
pay attention on the last word ‘Herself’. It remarks the original of
Feminism. Women are beginning to aware that they have the desire to do
something on their own. In Virginia’s day, her maid bought blue flowers.
In 1951, an American woman, who is a young mother with a son Richard and
baby in venter. Her husband bought her yellow roses even it is the man’s
birthday. She feels upset because she even couldn’t buy flowers by
herself. It seems like that everything, even the simplest thing she
wants to do are all out of her hand. In 2001, this time is more
progressive, the third woman Clarissa Vaughan lives with her girlfriend
Sally and they have been together for ten years. Among these three women
from different times, only Clarissa put forward she wanted to buy
flowers herself and she did. It is a pity that I can’t figure out these
three types of flowers since I feel there could be some special meanings
in different types of flowers.


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The second, Shoes. In 1941, Virginia drowned herself in the river out of
her house. When she is floating away with water, the shoes are left
behind. In 1952, Laura is going to kill herself in the hotel. She sits
on the edge of bed, and puts feet out of shoes slowly. In 2001, after
the conversation with Richard’s mother, Laura, Clarissa goes back to her
bedroom, takes off the shoes. Shoes, in this film, represents prison to
these women, or to say it exactly, they are chains which wrap humans
tightly. Once they take off their shoes, they could finally put
everything away.

You may not mean to neg a woman, but a compliment might veer into that
territory. For example: ‘You look so cute! My gran has the exact same
dress!’ or ‘I adore your little snub nose.’

Grew up outside of a small city in the Pacific Northwest of the United
States, Olivia came to China in 2015 to pursue her dream of working in
international business. When Olivia visited Shanghai for the first time
she told herself she had to live here. 1 year later Olivia found exactly
what she was looking for in Shanghai and have grown to love this
fascinating city and the community!

The third, Kiss. In 1923, Virginia kissed her sister Nessa. Nessa was
scared and hard to console Virginia, she left in a way more like
escaping. In 1951, Laura kissed her neighbor Kitty. Kitty also left her,
but in peace, not awkward. In 2001, Clarissa kissed Sally and only this
woman didn’t walk away. It reveals the progress of Feminism and maybe
also Lesbianism. However, what I want to argue is that under the
Feminism and Lesbianism, which viewers can see outside, it is humanity.
I notice details when they kiss. Nessa looked hesitated to when she came
and to give a kiss on the cheek. She was looking at Virginia’s lips,
very strange, and then kissed on her cheek. Kitty looked at Laura and
eyes show her desire entirely, maybe just for comfort, but she did need
that kiss. People who were kissed did need and long for kiss, but they
were scared when the kiss came true. Virginia and Laura gave their
kisses with whole courage, but reality treated them cruelly. That’s why
they became disappointed and tried to escape after kissing. It is tragic
that people can’t admit their desire and need, escaping from own heart,
like Nessa and Kitty. It is, more tragic, that people who have finally
adapted their own and be brave to show their desires, couldn’t be
accepted by this world, like Virginia and Laura.


Currently Olivia is the Marketing Manager at Adsmith China, a marketing
agency that helps foreign brands with their China branding and messaging

When Laura and Richard are going to make a cake for Dan, Laura says, we
are baking the cake to show him that we love him. Then Richard asks
‘Otherwise he won’t know we love him?’. Laura gives answer ‘Yes’. It
sets me thinking a lot. Love is an emotion, a feeling, but still needs
to show. People show love through kisses, hugs, touches. It is necessary
and very important. Although some people would ignore this in daily
life, which quite reduces their happiness.

These are ‘compliments’ that will earn you a cold silence from a woman.
She’s not going to notice the ‘cute’ part; it doesn’t count when she’s
worried that her dress makes her look matronly or that she has an
unfortunate nose.

There are people who look like to be lonely and they seldom walk closely
to others. However, it doesn’t demonstrate that they don’t care. I think
it is a contrast between 1923 and 2001. In 1923, Nessa doesn’t invite
Virginia to her party because she thought Virginia would not come even
she invited her. Virginia said, even crazy people like to be invited.
Same in 2001, Richard refuses to attend the party which is for him and
held by Clarissa. Later Sally points out that Richard always comes to
parties even he says no. So that’s what the film wants to tell us.
People have different ways to live, to think, to feel. But one thing is
certain that people all like the feeling that they are needed and loved.
Virginia and Richard are people who are hard to express emotions, like
love, but they do own it.


29 #StyleQs with Olivia Plotnick


  1. What’s the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning?

– When I wake up in the morning I wash my face first thing, I have a
very detailed skin-care routine.

  1. Are you a morning person or a night owl?

– I would much rather wake up early and “seize the day.” After reading
several blogs about the benefits of training your body to wake up early,
I recently started waking up at 5:15 and I feel so much more

WOW way to go girl!

We here
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all our fashion girls to try the 5AM challenge! Early birds catch the

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3.Favorite fashion era?

– Right now! Think about it, you’ve got kind of a modern, sleek look
going on, while in some ways the 90’s have come back, leisure wear has
become a thing – it’s now appropriate to wear leggings and long sweaters
out in public, what a time to be alive!

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  1. Earliest fashion memory?

– When I was young I had several American Girl dolls, which my mother
so generously sewed beautiful outfits for. Once she had me pick out the
fabric and style of a dress and sewed my doll and me matching outfits.

  1. What’s the first outfit you ever bought for yourself?

– I hate to admit, but the first outfit I ever bought myself was a pair
of shorts from American Eagle Outfitters. Lets just say these were a
pair of shorts that my parents would not have bought for me if they were

6. Define ‘Fashion’

– Fashion is art. Just like art, everyone has their own idea, their
own taste, what is fashionable to me, may not be fashionable to you.
Fashion is a way for people to express and reinvent themselves each

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  1. How would you describe your personal style?

– My style; playing it safe and comfortable, with a hint of style.

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8. Who’s the most inspiring woman that you look up to?

– I have to say my mother, which is a cliché answer, but I would add
that my mother taught me to look for, recognize and respect inspiring,
strong women. For this reason, I am inspired by the women around me each
and every day. It has been incredible to meet so many strong, powerful,
passionate women in Shanghai, and you don’t have to look hard – they’re
everywhere here! Seeing how hard these women work and how passionate
they are has really pushed me to set new goals.

9.Favorite book?

– Shantaram by Gregory David Roberts. Just read it, it will blow your
mind, change the way you see the world, and make you wish it never

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  1. Spirit animal?

– I would like to say something super awesome and unique like a praying
mantis, but anyone who knows me well would immediately answer;cat.

  1. What’s your guilty pleasure?

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– I could eat an entire can of this in one sitting (in fact I’ll just
admit that yes, I have done this).

  1. Tote or clutch?

– clutch (but one with a shoulder strap) because less is more.

  1. Heels or flats?

– I’m not going lie, heels can make anyone look sexy and take your
outfit to the next level. I would love to be one of those women who can
wear heels effortlessly and look like a total boss, devoid of any hint
of pain (do these women actually exist, or are they just in
commercials??) but the cold hard truth is, I’m not. Flats 99.99% of the

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14. Little black dress or little white dress?


  1. Colors or Black/White?

– I envy people who look good in any color, but I’m not so lucky. You
can never go wrong with the classic black and white.

  1. Dress up or dress down?

– Dress down – when in doubt, being comfortable will be your best

17. What’s your favorite piece from#129Dresses
latest collection?

– I can’t choose just 1!

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Easy-breezy v-neck tropical print slip mini shift dress


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Sophisticated oriental crane print side-slit kimono long dress


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Intricate floral embroidery tassle long kimono coverup


  1. Wechat or Facebook?

– WeChat all the way! Think of how much you can do with this app,
Facebook pales in comparison! I don’t think I could survive without

  1. Favorite Instagram account to browse on?

– Instagram – stephclairesmith – From a marketing perspective it is
fascinating to see how she interacts with brands. She has become a huge
KOL and does many influencer campaigns, but you can tell that she
carefully selects the brands she works with, and her messaging is well
thought out and delivered. She also has her own healthy lifestyle blog,
has great fitness inspiration photos, and her style is always on point.

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20. What’s your favorite emoji?

– Thank goodness we can now clearly communicate the “life is so hard”

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  1. Favorite artist?

– I’m proud to say that I actually know this incredibly talented young
woman, Sofia Clausse, (you can check out her
Her knowledge of typography is staggering. I am absolutely fascinated by
her creativity, curiosity and passion. I think she is definitely an
artist to watch out for.

  1. Last film you saw?

– La La Land

23. Who would play you in a film about your life?

– I hope Kristen Wiig would do me the honors.

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  1. What’s one thing you can’t live without?

– My Burts Bees moisturizer and face wash (though I could also accept
Clinique) – I would go camping in the middle of nowhere for days,
without any other modern comforts, but I’d need these.

  1. If you could go on a trip to anywhere in the world, where would you

– There are so many places I’d love to go, and even revisit, it is
impossible to choose just one. I will say that I hope to be fortune
enough to continue to travel throughout my life.

26. What’s the best piece of advice you’ve received?

– “It will all work out in the end.” After years of denial, I’ve come
to accept that my mother is often right. The uncertainties and
challenges in life can easily consume you, but somehow, if you push
yourself forward, there will always be another opportunity, there will
always be another solution, and it may even turn out much better than
you expected.

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  1. What do you think are the current and future trends in fashion?

– It seems that fashion is becoming smarter – in the sense that we now
see all of this wearable technology such as the fit bits, and Apple
watches etc. What if your shirt tracked your heart rate, or your jeans
tracked your steps. I think that fashion is starting to contribute to a
healthier lifestyle, which is awesome.

28.What do you think is the biggest challenge that modern day women
face nowadays and what should be done more to empower them?

– We are our own worst enemy. There have been a slew of events
recently that have brought to life how harsh and judgmental women are
towards each other, when everyone is fighting for the same thing. Either
someone is too feminist, or not feminist enough. If women want to march
on Washington for equal rights, don’t make them feel that their cause is
petty and unnecessary just because you personally have never felt the
sting of inequality. If Emma Watson wants to show some cleavage on the
cover of a magazine, this doesn’t make her any less of a feminist, this
makes her a confident woman. Being a feminist has gotten such a bad
reputation, when all it means is equality. Instead of feminism maybe we
should start calling it The Fight for Equilibrium.

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  1. What are you going to do right after this interview?

– I’m going to keeping working, moving, laughing and indulging in
things that make me happy.


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At the end of the film, there is a classic rhesis said by Virginia. ‘ To
look life in the face, always to look life in the face, and to know it
for what it is. At last, to know it, to love it for what it is, and then
to put it away.’ Virginia and Richard choose death while Laura chooses
life when they all look their own lives clearly. It is a contrast. To
choose death, because they have other people’s love and they couldn’t
pay off. It is a reason when Richard said to Clarissa that he felt he
lived to satisfy her. It is a reason Richard chooses death and he can’t
bear the hours even after the party. It is a reason that Virginia can’t
live but still say thanks and love to Leonard.

There are plenty of other things you can compliment her on that won’t
have the added effect of making her feel insecure.

Laura also deeply knows the essence of life. She just chooses to live, a
different choice from Virginia and Richard. ‘It would be wonderful to
say you regretted it. It would be easy. But what does it mean? What does
it mean to regret when you have no choice? It’s what you can bear.’
Laura is the one who chooses to bear the hours after the ‘party’. There
are only two choices, life or death, once you know what the life is (for
people like Laura and Richard). And that is why Richard finally
understands his mother Laura. Clarissa also knows it and she forces
herself to ignore it. This is another way when faced with life. That’s
why Laura says to her ‘You are a lucky woman’.


The love, whether is Leonard to Virginia or Clarissa to Richard, is pure
and never asks for return. Some people would doubt that why they are
still not happy since someone loves them heart and soul. No one asks
what they want. It is the love, too heavy for them to bear. I guess even
themselves don’t what they real want, from Virginia’s behaviors. ‘ The
poetry will die.’ They live in a poetry way.

Don’t make a joke of it

So, what will you choose when the essence of life becomes clear to you?
Life or Death?


It is a wonderful topic about life and humanity.

Flirting can be scary at the best of times. You’re making yourself
vulnerable when you do it, and it’s perfectly natural to want to offset
that with humour. You want to tease a woman instead of complimenting her
– but being earnest is probably the best approach when it comes to
compliments. Women recognise sincerity and are grateful for it.

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Instead of ‘I’d tell you how cute you look today, but of course you
already know that hahahahaha’, try a simple ‘You look really lovely
today, by the way.’

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That way, she won’t have to smile awkwardly or wonder whether it’s a
joke or not.

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Do compliment her on things other than her appearance

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When complimenting women, it’s good to keep in mind that women are
likely to be wary of comments on their physical appearance, and are much
more receptive to compliments on their intelligence, wit, or sense of
humour (In fact, they are almost never appreciated for the latter, so go
ahead, tell her that she’s one of the funniest people you know).

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If you do make a comment on her physical appearance, the golden rule is
to keep it general. ‘You look beautiful,’ to your date, NOT ‘you have a
very sexy neck.’ No matter how sexy her neck is, pointing out one
hyperspecific area of her body can feel gross and objectifying.


Don’t be abrasive or grudging


Sadly many men adopt a slightly hostile or abrasive tone when they
compliment women. It’s another defence mechanism that you have to let go


Remember, the purpose of a compliment is to make somebody feel better
about themselves. Do it with a smile on your face and in a pleasant
tone: don’t say it as if you had a gun to your head.


People don’t notice what you’re saying as much as the tone you’re saying
it in, so a good compliment is completely wasted if it’s delivered


Finally, remember how powerful compliments can be


Ask most people and they’ll tell you: yes, they remember the best
compliment they ever received. Even if it was five years ago, in the
club loo and it was a drunk compliment from another girl.